Communication

It is amazing how valuable communication can be in a new relationship. You have to be able to let go of your jaded views from past failed relationships, and realize this new person is not your past.

I am far from perfect, and so is David. But the one thing we seem to have gotten very good at, is communication. Especially about our fears. We have both had a situation early in our relationship, where we questioned the actions of the other, due to our experiences with ex’s.

But what has kept these things from turning into huge fights or misunderstandings, is that we ask what we are afraid to ask. We get answers before jumping to the wrong conclusions.

This is new territory for me. I have never had a man willing to be so open to talking about important issues in our relationship. I enjoy it very much. We don’t spend 100% of our time discussing the serious things…we do have fun, sometimes being totally silly, other times being romantic. But just knowing, that the option is there to bring up something we feel is important to us, is a huge thing.

How are your communication skills? Have you been honest with yourself about how you deal with others? It is the hardest thing you can do…looking in the mirror and being honest about what you see in yourself.

Be blessed and communicate it!

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This makes me laugh…

And to make it even more funny, read the lyrics:

When you’re feeling inside out and insecure,
and life keeps getting you down.
When all life’s daily worries·hurry through your head.
You don’t want to even ·get up.
You just lie around in bed.
When you feel you just can’t take it anymore
And you wonder what on earth it is all foryour love life’s like a war zone
Your tv’s on the blinkit’s enough to drive a drinking man to stop and take a
Think

·just ·remember that you standing on a planet that’s evolving,revolving at 900
Miles an hour.it’s orbiting at 19 miles a second, so it’s reckoned,
A sun that is the source of all our power.
The sun and you and me and all the stars that we can see
Are moving at a million miles a day.
In an outer spiral orb, at 40,000 miles an hour,
Of the galaxy we call the milky way

Our galaxy itself contains a hundred billion stars.
It’s a 100,000 light years side to side
It bulges in the middle 16,000 light years thick,
But out by us it’s just 3,000 light years wide.
We’re 30,000 light years from galactic central point.
We go round every 200,000,000 years.
And our galaxy is only one of millions of billions
In this amazing and expanding universe.

Our universe itself keeps on expanding and expanding
In all of the directions it can whiz
As fast as it can go, the speed of light you know, 12,000,000 miles a minute,
And that’s the fastest speed there is!
So, remember when you’re feeling very small and insecure
How amazingly unlikely is your birth.
And pray that there’s intelligent life somewhere up in space,
‘cause I’m afraid that we’ve been cheated here on earth.”

-Courtesy of Lyrics Time

Spring…almost Summer

How gorgeous is that tree? Beautiful white blossoms. And it has been warm enough that I can hang our laundry out to dry again. What a savings that is…since I have to use the laundromat. Nothing smells better than clothes taken off the clothesline after a day in the sun.

It is also a time for our small town to come together for Pride Day. I believe it’s been around about 10-15 years. We used to do a parade on Memorial Day, but it got switched to this. It is actually better than just the parade.

Over the years it has grown tremendously. I would show you the actual parade, but sadly, the video is too large to load to Youtube or Flickr. If anyone knows of a place where I can upload a video of nearly 500mb, and embed it, let me know.

Anywhooooooo…there are now tons of vendors and games set up downtown. The Scouts set up a booth as well, giving away popcorn. We also had donation jars for both the Cub Scouts and Boy Scouts. My boys weren’t able to attend since they had to go to dad’s….but next year I will make sure they stay home for it.

We have been super busy with end of year activities for school, and Scouts. The kids don’t get out of school until June 25th this year, due to all the snow days. They are actually going for 2 half Saturday’s in June.

Middle wingnut is petrified he will miss Summer, hehehe.

Ok, off to study. Don’t forget to look for little signs of Spring…almost Summer in your neighborhood. Too often we don’t notice what is right under our noses.

And don’t let me forget to tell you about “D”…the new man I am seeing.

Be blessed!

Bloggin Goodness…

After running an unexpected errand an hour away from home this morning, and having one sick kid home…I worked on my mini home office (photos coming soon).

But being the ucky, rainy day that it is, I have to take more breaks, because the shoulder is just unbearable. During these breaks I have done what I always do……..surf my favorite blogs. So I am here to share some of my favorite finds today.

Tara Whitney has moved her blog to here, from Typepad. I have to say I absolutely love the new look and feel of her blog. I wish I could do the same thing to my header that she did to hers. Wow!

And specifically check out this post. She talks about her “One Project A Month” (OPAM), which I think I am going to do. My next to do is to put the livingroom into some sense of order now that I moved my office to the kitchen. Also, my older brother has finally gotten an apartment again, so I can get his stuff out of my tiny 2 bedroom. This used to be his apartment, and he didn’t take everything when he moved out, and expected me to hold onto it for him. Psssssssssstttttttttt…come get your d*mn stuff!!! LOL! Seriously though, I have 3 kids. I don’t have room for other people’s kitchen table sets, and water bubblers.

And over at Cathy Z’s blog, there is this fabulous post about “Not What I Was Planning”…go read it here, and watch the video…..love this idea, definitely feel inspired to make something artsy with this idea. She is also video blogging….dang I love watching her and Miss Donna when they video blog. Makes me realize I am not such a dork….they constantly say “So, yeah….” Hehe.

I love this layout by Miss A. I don’t own a square punch that would make those perfect little squares…but I do have a really good Fiskars Trimmer. So I think I might give this a go.

Ok, so yeah…..mauahaha I crack myself up. Anywhoo, go check out the goodies, get inspired, and have fun!

Be blessed

Genealogy SCORE!!!

Thanks to my step-cousin, Frank. I met Frank by way of Ancestry.com, and never knew there was a connection until he emailed me back. He had my grandfather, Gordon, in his family tree.

Frank’s mom was the second wife of my uncle, Robert. Small world! Well to my blessing, he is also a registered genealogist in the state of Connecticut. Not long ago, CT changed it’s laws concerning the ability to get birth certificates. It had to be 100 years from the day the person was born, unless you were a certified genealogist. I was not, so I thought I had to wait until 2013 to get access to my grandfather’s information. Until I met Frank that is!
Here is what he scanned and sent to me today. I will have the original in my hands shortly.

This provides me with so much new information. First, I suspected Arthur was a farmer before moving to Stamford and working for the Philip’s Chemical Co., but I wasn’t positive. Second, it gives me both middle names for Arthur and Clara, which I didn’t have before.
And the big shocker……..my grandfather wasn’t an only child as we thought!

Here is my theory, and if anyone can provide any information or insight, please contact me……In the 1920 census for Stamford, CT, Arthur and Gordon are listed as boarders. Arthur is still listed as being married. There is no mention of any other children, or Clara. There was a huge TB epidemic making it’s way through this area at the time, and many people ended up being sent to Laurel Heights TB Sanitarium in Shelton, CT. I believe this may be where Clara ended up….and where she eventually died, sometime between 1920 and 1930. In the 1930 census, it is still Arthur and Gordon living alone as boarders, but Arthur is now listed as widowed.

The other two children? I have no idea. They could have died as well from TB. Gordon was the youngest. They could have died before the family moved to Stamford from Simsbury, sometime after Gordon was born in 1913.

Love the challenge of the mystery!!!

Be blessed!

Genealogy Highs and Lows

So I have been playing on Ancestry again, trying to find more information. My mother’s side of the family is pretty easy to research, as there is alot of information about both the Goyette’s and the Blanchard’s.

And part of my father’s side of the family is easy to research as well. The Borsey’s and the Ede’s left me a great paper trail to follow.


This dashing gentleman is Joseph D. Ede, my great great grandfather. He was from England, and came to the U. S. about 1866. According to oral history, he and his wife Olive were missionaries after they raised their children, and spent some time in China. One of my most valuable possessions is a small bible, given to my grandmother Jessie A. Ede on her graduation from Stamford High School in 1930. He wrote in it, which to me is an invaluable piece of my history.


And this distinguished gentleman is a huge part of why we are who we are as a family. His name is Arthur Nichols, and he is my great granfather on my dad’s side. He worked for the Philip’s Chemical Co. at the turn of the century. He was blinded by a boiler accident, and as I have mentioned before my grandfather went to work at the age of 11 to support him. This is where I hit my genealogy low. This side of the family is stuck at him. I cannot find his wife Clara, nor anything on Arthur before 1920. I do know he was born about 1862 in New Canaan, CT, but that is it. I believe Clara may have been ill (most likely with TB) between 1920 and 1930. Many in my family died from TB during that time period.


And these are the infamous Grandparents in question….Gordon Everett Nichols Sr. and Jessie Agnes (Ede) Nichols. My father’s parents. This was taken a few years into their marriage. They were married when he was 19 and she was 16.


And this would be them, on the left, along with my parents Patricia Marie (Blanchard) and Everett Gordon Nichols, on their wedding day in 1965. This was the year before I was born.

My father told me some more stories yesterday as we were going through photos that I had and photos that were sent to me by a step cousin that I found through Ancestry.

The one that stands out, and really shows how we have become who we are in some respects is this:

My father was not a model child. He hated school. It was obvious by the amount of times he got asked to leave for causing trouble. After they asked him to leave and never come back around the age of 16, he went to work with my grandfather. My grandfather was a mechanic. The first day he asked my dad if he knew how to do a brake job. My father’s response was no. My grandfather then handed him a book and told him to read….then they would do one.

My father thought once not in school, he would be done with learning. My grandfather knew better. Gordon Sr. had only a 5th-6th grade education, and learned everything he knew about being a mechanic because he never stopped learning. He apparently always told my father “Use your head not your hands”.

While my father didn’t appreciate the value of that when he was younger, it was something that he handed down to us as children. School and our education was very important to him. We were required to maintain a C average, and if we didn’t, there were consequences like groundings and such.

And in turn, education has become extremely important to me. That is part of the drive that made me homeschool my children for so many years. I myself, never stop learning. I am like a sponge, and when I am interested in something, I will find all the information I can on that subject.

So, if you listen, you will hear me applauding these amazing people that came before me. It is my way of thanking them for helping to make me who I am, by handing down their beliefs, their morals, and their convictions.

Be blessed!

Edit: If you believe you might be related to me, contact me! One can never know enough about their family! And if you would like to see the family tree thus far, just go to Ancestry and type in Gordon E Nichols. You will find me under the family tree section, with the member name scarty64807. It is an ongoing project, and I am in the process of adding the Borsey line, as well as Cotton.

A New England Fan

So I am sure by now, unless you live on Mars, you know that my beloved Patriots lost the Super Bowl. It cause great stun in all the people of New England. I give kudos to the Giants for the game, but sadly they lost all respect from me by acting like conceited morons afterwards. They are being cocky, unsportsman like loosers. What a great example to set for the fans in the under 18 age group.

But nothing cheers up a true New England fan like the start of baseball season. Tonight I watched this on tv

I had never seen it before because I was too busy making myself sick, staying up to watch the actual 2004 season. But it was fun! Watching this movie helped me relive that MAGICAL year that we won the World Series for the first time in 86 years. It also helped get me out of my post Patriots slump.

Pitchers and catchers report to spring training in Fort Meyers, Florida next week. Finally, NESN will be showing the Red Sox Report again. And I will get to see him again

I affectionately call him Jay Jay. Is a grown woman allowed to oogle someone like this? I say YES!!! Come on ladies, look at that face. And those thighs make me drool. And now I know all you men who follow baseball think I am disgusting but you know what, I follow it for the game as well…its just that some of those hot players are icing on the cake.

Jason Varitek epitomizes what baseball should be. Did you know that he was in Little League? And that he played in the Little League World Series? And that he is one of the classiest players in baseball today?

As is Tim Wakefield, pitcher extraordinaire. Is he the best pitcher in baseball? Not even close, statistically speaking. But what he lacks in stats, he more than makes up for with his love of the purity of the game of baseball, as well as his charitable work off the field.

So, here is to Spring Training, My Boys of Summer, and Rem Dawg. Let the season begin!!!

EDIT: And just for the record, another reason to look forward to Spring Training is that it means winter is almost over. I HATE WINTER!!! There, I feel much better. Who the hell ordered 3 storms in one week?? Some one better fess up, because I want to chat with them. Kidding…sorta’