Lessons Learned….

Forgive me if this is a rambling post…I need to get these thoughts and feelings out somewhere, and this seems as good a place as any. Especially if it helps someone else avoid some pain.

Lesson One: You CANNOT make another person happy. It took me nearly six years to figure this one out. You say “DUH”…but as much as it seems a no brainer, when you love someone unconditionally, you do just about anything for them. Including playing their games.

Lesson Two: HONESTY means different things to different people. You can tell someone what you want, or how you feel…but if they are unwilling to listen, they never hear it. Then years down the road they tell you that you were not honest with them.

Lesson Three: Past baggage, no matter what kind, will affect a relationship. How it affects it will be determined by how you choose to deal with it. If you choose to bury your head in the sand and keep making the same mistakes over and over, you will destroy your relationship. If you choose to look it dead in the eye, and find a way to deal with it, you might make it. But it is a team effort.

Lesson Four: Take your rose colored glasses off. Love is hard work, commitment, and trust. If you are looking at the relationship through rose colored glasses, you will miss the best parts.

Lesson Five: NEVER…I repeat…NEVER EVER compromise who you are as a person to please someone else. It will come back to haunt you. They will never appreciate it, acknowledge it, or even care. They will just keep taking and taking until there is nothing but a shell of your former self. Be proud of who you are, and never apologize for it. If they are meant to be in your life, than they will love you for who you are.

Lesson Six: Learn from your mistakes. Simple, but oh so hard to do in real life.

Lesson Seven: The person you loved with all your heart can and will turn on you in the blink of an eye. If they feel slighted in anyway, even if it is in their own little minds, they will become vicious. Protect yourself. It is going to come as a shock.

Be blessed, I am (even if it doesn’t sound like it).

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